Three women sat down complaining about the mess in their home. One woman was married with children, the other lived with her partner and the third a single woman that lived by herself. each woman talked about the obstacles they faced in keeping a clean and tidy home. Reasons and excuses were given on how having small children and being working parents means very little time was given for housekeeping, or a messy partner and lack of consideration made it difficult to keep up with house work, or a full social calendar and a spoiled mischievous pet meant all efforts made towards keeping the home in order was made insufficient. But in the end the conversation ended with, “You know, I was never taught how to clean or keep my home in order.” And they all agreed that in fact that is the reason so their present predicament.
Marie Kondo, an organizing and de-cluttering consultant and author on several books on how to keep the home and workplace organized and clean confirms in one of her books that we are never actually taught how to clean neither in our homes or in our schools. We are taught to believe that there are two kinds of people the neat freaks and the messy slobs by nature. we sometimes look around ourselves and say as we shrug our shoulder “I am messy by nature, but it is mess that makes sense and I know where everything is and my mind works better in the chaos”. We all know that is a load of old wilted tulips, right? think of the tie that our mind is overwhelmed. Often, we try alleviate the chaos in our minds by organizing the outside world in the effort to at least control the tangible mess. We hope that by organizing the outside world we can organize the mental.
Kondo suggests, that one of the best ways of keeping a tidy home is but purging. by keeping only the things that bring us joy and are useful and letting go of all the thing that we don’t need nor are useful nor bring anything positive in our world. so, this spring, also known as the season for cleaning, in other words Spring Cleaning let us take the challenge to keep only the things in life that bring us joy, that serve a purpose, that prove their usefulness and let everything go. We are not talking about just in our physical world. Certainly, do that too. keep your home and work place clean and tidy but use the same philosophy for our mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being. Let us purge. Let us remove the negative and purge and only keep those things that will make us grow. We are not talking about keeping all the rainbows and unicorns and bunnies, puppies, and cotton candies. Because life is not all rosy. what we mean is use even the negative occurrence in our lives learn from it, embrace it, and grow from it then let it go. there is no pint in holding on to it and letting it clog and clutter us internally.
Imagine your world without women…Seriously. Sit down (or stand, your choice, because you have the choice) and think about what your world would be without women. Not just the women in your life. Not just your mother, your wife, your sister, your aunt, your friend, your daughter, you colleague. But women in general. The strong, brave, intelligent, innovative generous passionate women in history. Would your life be as it is today? It doesn’t matter if you are a man or a woman, you wouldn’t be where you are today if weren’t for both the men and women that made big changes in the past and those that are making great changes now. So why is it that we hesitate and need to be prompted to celebrate the great women in the world? Why do we create obstacles for women to reach height when their brothers don’t even have to imagine that those obstacles would exist? Why do we not let out daughters dream bigger dreams like we do our sons? We have come a long way, it true, but we are still shackled to the mentality of inequality.
We challenge you to teach your daughters to be free of the mental anchors that make them believe that they cannot go further than what has already been achieved. We challenge you teach them that and ceiling is there to be smashed through. Jennifer L. Lawless and Richard L. Fox write in their article in Governance Studies that the reason there isn’t gender parity in Public Office if in fact because women don’t run. If they run they would win, but they don’t because of the many excuses they give themselves. That they are not qualifies enough, or think they simply won’t win. So, let us challenge ourselves to release our women’s way of thinking. And the best way we can do that is by supporting them. The women’s growth in society is growth for the whole world. Why do we expect to rise when we keep half of what makes up our society under our feet? We rise when we all unity in the common goal TOGETHER.
This year when you celebrate International Women’s Day don’t be passive about it. Don’t look at a woman and thing “Hey you are a woman let me wish you a happy day”. Make it count make it mean something. Not just for her but to the entire gender.
We hate to be captain obvious with suggestions that so basic and simple. but we must remember that the most basic and simplest romance tricks are the tried and the ones and the ones we take for granted or forget about the most.
Tell your honey you love her or him and show the love in your actions. This could be anywhere from picking up his favorite snacks on your way home to rubbing her feet in the evening to letting him eat the last chicken wing
Share your goals and dreams and fears with your partner. Include your partner in your day to day life. Speak in “we” rather than “I” wen talking about your future. Be considerate, understanding and encouraging towards his/her future
Be forgiving of your sweetie’s shortcoming and compromise. You don’t always have to win. Not all arguments need to be won.
Listen to your partner. But realy listen, not the passive listening while reading a book or watching a game or a TV show. Really understand what s/he s saying to you. There is nothing as romantic as someone giving you their undivided attention.
Remember you are equals. Not one is better or more important than the other. You both bring your truest selves wholly so you are both equal in the relationship
Do not try to change each other. Love your partner for who they really are and despite their shortcoming. Why would you want to change the person you love anyway? Then they will stop being the person you fell in love with. That said, always strive to be the best person you could strive to be better for yourself and for your partner.
Be whole as a unit and individually. Enjoy it each other company but you should also be able to be content by yourself.
Buy each other gifts. Just because. No special occasion. Only because you thought about each other or you saw something that reminded you of each other or you know that your partner would absolutely love it.
Let go or your preconceived ideas or expectation of what romance or relationships are alike or should be like. Your neighbor’s, friend’s or even parents’ relationship has nothing to do with yours. Let your love and companionship grow organically at its own pace and into its own space. Don’t force it to become the status quo or like your ideal of a relationship.
Brag about each other. Be each other’s cheerleader and publicist. There is nothing sweater, more romantic, hear warming and satisfying like a partner that sings your praises to others.
The super bowl of dates is upon us. many plans being drafted, playbooks being studies, date budgets increased, romance levels turned up to the max, Of the pressure. But why? Valentine’s day does not need to be an elaborate circus with openers, main shows and after parties. Don’t get us wrong, it is wonderful that you are putting a lot of thoughts into celebrating your loved ones. But it does not mean that you absolutely need to cash in your 401K to do so.
The point of the day is in making sure our sweethearts are treated to what makes them the happiest. And there is nothing more romantic than knowing what they love and offering it. Some are not impressed with your ability to obtain a coveted reservation at a fancy restaurant, or that you copied some RomCom because you could not come up with an idea of your own. This does not mean your sweetheart will not appreciate it. It only means that s/he is getting something unoriginal or something that truly makes her/hi happy.
Here are some sweet ideas that can be as enjoyable as any elaborate ones:
Grubhub, Netflix and chill. 2017 Valentine’s day is on a Tuesday. A work day. Imagine she has a long day at work. Nothing like having her favorite dish from her favorite restaurant; her favorite show and just relax with her favorite person (that is you).
While in the theme of chill, how about an evening of nothing. Sit together drinking wine eating cheese and grapes and just talk and be there with each other. Get to know each other even better. Really listen to each other and share what in your heart, stories funny or sad, tell jokes
Have an evening of games with just the two of you. Make yourselves yummy sandwiches and drinks and have a fun evening with you beau
Go to the gym together. Couples that sweat together stay together. Run and challenge each other on the treadmill or spot each other at the weights. Encourage each other to do more and complement each other on accomplishments
Make it known who your sweetheart is to the world. Call you favorite florist and order some beautiful flowers and have them delivered at work. DO it even a day early. This shows that you didn’t wait till the day off to remember and it will be a beautiful surprise to receive them a day early.
There is power and strength in love. Love conquest all. In Love, there is compassion, patience, respect, and kindness. Some of us welcomes it and others fear it for its ability to destroy us, because the power that love, true love, possesses is like none other. And because of this power, Love, is often celebrated and hailed and written and sung about throughout history and eras, throughout cultures and religions. Love is more than the cozy warm and fuzzy feeling. Love is fearless and great. Wars have started in its name and has inspired art.
We chase love in any way it manifests its self. we follow our love for our profession, Love of our passions and hobbies, Love of family. And with Love comes responsibility. A great one. When we love something, and make our sentiments known, we are responsible and must be true to our words. When we profess that we love, we must show the object of our sentiment an immeasurable respect.
So, let us celebrate Love. Let us acknowledge its power and give it the respect it deserves. And how do we do that? When do we do that? As for when, Every hour of the day of the week of the month of the year of our lives. As for how, by using it for a greater good. By serving humankind, the world we live in our community and society. By letting love shine through hate, anger, and discontent.
We are in the middle of December thinking, no, dreaming of the spring. We are a few months away, but er know it is around the corner; it is coming. A few earth rotation and a bit of revolution and boom SPRING. And in preparation for the season we did some research of what’s happening in DC.
Kingman Island and Charm City Bluegrass and Folk Festival
National Electronics Museum RoboFest
National Cinco de Mayo Festival
Amazing Pet Expo
Saint Sophia’s Greek Festival
So how full is you calendar now? Nothing beats ad a fun jam packed spring. You get to celebrate the rebirth and rejuvenation of the earth when the trees are green and the glowers bloom, the air is warmer and fresher and you are no longer wearing layers upon layers of cotton and wool and a combination thereof.
Spring is coming. We promise. But until it does you can bring spring indoors. How? Fresh flowers and green plants of course. and you know who has them? We do silly. We have all the fresh blooms to bring the light and airy feeling that spring does. Give it a try get some flowers or send some to that person that is really over winter already.
Yes, it is cold. Yes, you cannot wait for spring and summer to be here. Yes, we are not even halfway through winter and you are already over it. So, what to do? we make the best of it and find the joy in Winter. This is the time we get to shed the unwanted and get ready for the rebirth that comes with spring. We will list some of the things we believe will help you find the joy that can be found in this gloomy season.
Funny hats, fuzzy scarves, and fun mittens. Yup, when else can you wear those? This is a great opportunity for you to show your fun, goofy personality.
Getting to hid behind bulky sweaters and coats while you work on your beach body. And come warm weather BAM! the big reveal. Who knew inside that sweatshirt was a leaner trimmer you?!
This is the season with very few holidays where there is danger of you being invited and forced to get out of your warm and cozy home where your blanket, favorite hot beverage, guilty pleasure TV shows or movies or that book you never seem to have the time to read are. So take advantage of the season and catch up on the many seasons of TV Series or take up cross stitching or paint a beautiful painting for your dinning room.
Remember snow days when you were in school? well they are just as fun as adults. You either get to work from home or not work at all. You get to go out and play in the fresh snow and watch the snowflakes fall on your nose.
While on the subject, when else would you be able to get fresh powder when skiing? It is winter, there will be fresh snow, it is science.
Since you will be indoor a bit over this season, this is the time to discover, rediscover, or perfect the joy of cooking. If you are going to be quarantined indoors, might as well be with some nommy noms.
So, you see, there is joy to be found or had in this season. And for those who can’t find it send it in the form of happy, joyful, guaranteed to bring an honest smile to the face of the recipient. Flowers
Traditions, laughter, family, friends are what make lasting memories that you carry through your life and get to relive and revive year after year every holiday. And if you are lucky you get to recreate and pass on to your children. We all have our favorite holiday memories and those memories are what tie us together in the merriment of the season. The smell of cinnamon-ey, ginger-ey, sugary baked goods, the taste of spiced wine or creamy eggnog, singing Christmas carols as you studied your Christmas tree and devised the best way to hand your ornaments or that time you sat on your father’s shoulders and reached up to put the big bright and shiny star on top of the tree. And that time your uncles strategized on how to best hang the Christmas lights on the outside wall of your home, or eyeing the Christmas presents siting at the foot of the tree and guessing what could possibly be in the boxes.
It could be going to midnight mass at church, or playing Mary and Joseph at you Sunday schools play of the nativity. Or going to a nursing home or children’s home with you parents to bring some Christmas gift and spreading some holiday cheer. or it could be watching the joy and surprise in your loved ones’ faces when they open the gifts that you put so much thought in or spent the money you worked so hard for.
Or it is the stories you told, games you played, laughter and tears you shares with your family on Christmas eve. or that time you went ice skating at your neighborhood skating rink, or the time you caught the Nutcracker at the theater. I could be the holiday trip your family took to a cabin for a special holiday trip, or the tropical Christmas that one year where you said Mele Kalikimaka instead of Merry Christmas.
We all have our own special memories that we will keep and treasure for all the days of our lives. And there are the memories we are going to make. Every holiday season is an opportunity to create a joyful memory for our loved ones. Every day of the season is an opportunity to make the days special for our families, friends and ourselves. But we should not limit this opportunity to only the holiday season. Every day of every year is an opportunity for lovely long lasting memories and and opportunity to make someone smile and have a heart full of joy and cheer. We urge you to make memories. We make memories every day, people never forget the day they received flowers, no matter ho many times they receive them in their lives.
Well there is the choice of a stiff drink and a pint of ice-cream. But really you will only wake up with a wicked hangover and a doubling your run or spin class in the morning. Regardless of what party you belong to or who your candidate is, election season is stressful, you are not even the one running, for office that is. And that is why we are going to give you some steps to decompress after this year long roller-coaster of debates in making you want America great again or believe we are stronger together.
First of all, you need to unplug. No longer refreshing your browser to check which state closed and who won California every 2 minutes should help. Turn of the loud noise of electoral votes and why the candidate won or lost. The days of panic that if you didn’t vote you would let your country down are over for another 4 years.
What’s done is done now…whether you are happy or disappointed with the results. Focus on aspect of life. The ones that give you less anxiety and the one only you get to vote on and decide. Like deciding what your family has for dinner. No need to ask your significant other or your children what they would like to eat. Be the sole voter and decider of the meal that will fill your tummies. And while at it enjoy the fun and calm that comes with cooking a meal
Don’t talk about politics, don’t talk about the votes, if your candidate won don’t rub it in people’s faces and if your candidate lost don’t call pack your things and move to the neighbors to the north or the south. Focus on your work. Focus on what is beautiful in the world, you know…like flowers.
Listen to soothing music, read a good nonpolitical book, watch a numb numbing rerun of your favorite show or a side-splitting comedy. Occupy your mind things that makes you genuinely happy.
Exercise. No, we are not crazy, working out released the feel-good ingredients in your body. And you’ll be fit in the process. But you are not thinking about elections while you are engaging your core in your Pilates class or sprinting on an incline on the treadmill or lifting your body weight. You mind will be clear; you are feeling good and you will be able to run to Canada if you wanted to.
As the warm air is a thing of the past and the cooler days approach we try to find those things that give us comfort and happy feeling. Like PSL. But we do not have to look very far or spend a fortune to find them. why? Well for one, it is not difficult to fins small things that give use the warm and fuzzies or a small budget or for free and second, the simplest things are the ones that give the most. And we are here to guide you in the right direction.
Warm/hot towel from the drier. Tell us that does not give you the warm and fuzzies. Very literally actually. Wrapping yourself with freshly washed warm codon goodness in a cool day ‘tis pretty much one of the best things in existence.
while in the warm and fuzzy town, plush animals are one of the cutest things that can bring a happy smile to you face. Either getting one from a loved one of cuddling one that you already have and is full of loving memories
while we are in the “animal” village, let us take a moment to appreciate all the happy heart palpitations we get when we see baby animals. puppies, kittens, lambs, chicks, baby monkeys actually any all animals bring us the “awwwww”s. “tis why we watch for ours videos of baby pandas on YouTube on bad days.
And what do we send when someone is having a bad day? Flowers. you saw that coming, didn’t you? well, yes we are a florist and we would think that flowers will fix all ailments of the blues. But it is actually true. Flowers are certified joy bringers. there is actual certification after a grueling licensing exam that flowers must go through to be able to bring joy to people. those exams are given by tough and talented designers that go through each flower and make sure that they are worthy of you.
There are usually notes that go along with the flowers and they are our #5 happy feelings bringers (yes, that is a thing). Sweet messages, love notes, feelings poured in words bring us instantaneous happiness. But they also last a long time. We often go back to old postcards or text message and emails from family, significant others, children, and friends and read them to absorb and feel the same feelings they gave us when we first received them. They are a beautiful thing.
Speaking of sweet notes, how about the sweet deliciousness of chocolate? There is comfort and decadence that comes from placing a delicious piece of chocolate in your mouth and letting it melt slowly as you savor the luxurious flavors and aroma. Yup, those cocoa beans back a ton of happiness friends.
A scenic ride in the car. sitting in the passenger seat with your case against the window and quietly watching the changing trees, fallen leaves on the ground pass. There is something serene and enjoyable about it. Living in the city can be especially tiring sometimes; it is important to get away for a few hours to absorb the calm and peace of the land beyond the hustle and bustle
Those small things that brought us immeasurable enjoyment as children can bring us those same happy feelings. Like balloons. Remember when you were a child how much fun you had with balloons? How happy you were when they made you balloon animals or you were given one at the birthday party? the many hours you spent playing and chasing one? Believe it or not, balloons are full of happy airs (giggle). They symbolize cheery, festivities and happy occasions. Imagine how you would feel if you were to be give and bunch of balloons? Even their name is fun…thing about it BA-LLOONS
Singing aloud. you cannot carry a note? it does not matter. turn your favorite music one and belt it out. sing it as loud as you can. close your eyes and just sing
While you are at it do the 10th thing that will undoubtedly make you happy, DANCE. Dance around, jump around. No one care if you do not have rhythm. If someone cares, then that person does not matter. ENJOY YOURSELF.
Most importantly give to others all the things that make you happy. you find boundless happiness when you make others feel joy. That is a gift that keeps on giving.