So you have your boss , your in-laws, your neighbors, you friends, your coworkers, your cousin, and that guy from college are all throwing a holiday party and you are invited. It’s exhausting just thinking about it. you have work, family and your own holiday get-together to think about, you can’t possibly RSVP yes to all. Some will get a no after careful deliberation on whose party is more important and which host has a thin skin and will get offended. But there are tactful ways of saying, “sorry but I am going to Beth’s party and so won’t be able to make yours”. Here is where a good florist will make you look like you are a Grade A kind of human.
Your presence can be felt at the party without actually being there. And you can do that by sending a token of your appreciation for the invite in a form of flowers, gift basket or plant. You can sent a holiday centerpiece for the table, a chocolate, cheese and wine basket for the host and guests to enjoy in your name, or a beautifully dresses up poinsettia to add that little something festive to the party. This will say that you, wonderful human that you are, respect the host, are gracious and appreciative of the invite and you know how to say I won’t be coming with a ton of class. Make sure to have your “Thank you for the invite” gift the day before the party or the day of not after. Unless of course you were planning on attending and just couldn’t muster the energy to change into your party frock and step our into the cool evening (we’ve all been there). In which case then make sure to send a beautiful festive flowers arrangement that says “Sorry I couldn’t make it”.
Now that’s we’ve covered the parties you will not be attending, let’s move on to the ones you will be. Rule numero uno: DO NOT GO EMPTY HANDED. A box of fruit cake is better than a hand full of empty air. But us being us, we have only the best suggestions for you. Of course we believe that flowers send the best message of holiday cheer. Although we know for certain are the best option, we know they are not the only option. A good bottle of wine, a cheese tray, freshly baked cookies, cakes and other yummy sugary baked goods are also good options to bring your host. Another alternative, especially if you have some dietary restrictions, you can opt to bring a dish of something you can partake from. You can’t dictate what the host prepares (unless your host if your BFF and will know that you have peanut, shellfish, gluten allergies and are lactose intolerant). therefore, by bringing your own dish of something, you can make sure you won’t be starving if there is nothing else for you to munch on.
Another way to make sure you are being gracious to your host is to help clean up. We’ve all hosted a party at some point, and we know that, no matter the size of the shindig, the clean up is quite possibly the worst part of the whole affair. Everyone is tired or went hard on the special eggnog and the prospect of having to pick up all the wine glasses or beer dixie cups and paper napkins and pie crumbs peppered all over the house can trigger a headache worse than the morning after your copious amount of wine ingested. So offer to go around with a trash bag and collect the discarded disposable plates and cups and whatever else the guests left. Trust us, this will get you HUGE brownie points and the honor of THE BEST GUEST EVER!
This holiday is not about what you get, but what you give. Even a moment of your time to help, to listen, to understand is all one needs. Offer that and have the satisfaction in your heart that will bring you unmentionable amount of joy. and have yourself a holiday season full of peace, love, laughter and the gift of giving.