Studies show that saying thank you does actually have some health benefits by reducing stress related issues and depression. For some, however, saying “thank you” might feel awkward or might even be difficult, be it because of pride or the simple belief that the person is doing what s/he is supposed to do. Now think back to that time someone sincerely thanked you for a deed that you thought was not a big deal or ordinary or just simply your duty. Felt good, didn’t it? Wouldn’t you want someone to feel the same? Or think about that time that you did something extraordinary for someone, and the person never thanked you (not that you would do something to be recognized or thanked), it might have made you feel unappreciated.
This doesn’t mean that you should overdo it with the “thank you”s by handing them out like (insert a clever analogy here). That might actually make your gratitude lose meaning and value. Don’t be passive either when you thank someone. Show the person that you truly appreciate what s/he’s done. Don’t be vague about it; make sure the person knows what exactly you are thankful for. Don’t treat it as a chore or something you have to do, it should be something that you are happy and want to do. Thanking someone is more than just a transference of ooey-gooey warm and fuzzy feelings from one person to another. It is a way for you to show the other person that you respect them and their time and effort for the good things s/he did for you.
We, at MyFlorist, are in the business of helping companies show just how thankful they are of their Administrative Professionals. Next week, in particular, we are sending out vases and baskets full of “you are awesome”, “thank you!!!”, “couldn’t do it without you”, “you are a valuable member of our staff” and more all week-long to the fabulous APs and show them how appreciated they are for what they do all year-long for their bosses and their company. You can buy them lunch, give them gift cards or postcards, but nothing says it better than flowers. You might think we are biased, but studies have shown repeatedly that, like thank yous, flowers have health benefits…we’ll save that for another day.
There are a number of ways you can express your feelings. Some of these ways are big, complex gestures involving gifts, flowers, and expensive dinners. But some are simple and straightforward, and they can actually be more romantic. You also don’t have to worry about things going wrong. The more complex your plans are, the more likely something won’t go quite right. So how do you go about expressing your feelings?
• If you want to show her you love her, take her out to a romantic dinner at her favorite restaurant or cook her favorite meal for her.
• dozen red roses say “I love you” in a simple, elegant way.
• Go with what you know she loves and enjoys. If you’re trying to decide between her favorite restaurant and an expensive place you’re not sure about, go with her favorite. Of course, if she’s talked about a new place or has mentioned wanting to try a restaurant, then go with that. Stay with what you know. Apply this rule to expressing yourself through gifts, movie choice, etc.
• When writing out a card or preparing your declaration of love (and yes, some men to practice what they’re going to say, especially if they’re doing something like proposing), don’t get caught up in flowery language. Say what’s in your heart.
• Finally, just be yourself! Nothing is better than that. Don’t try to be someone you’re not. She’s not there because she expects you to transform into this other person, she’s there because she wants to be with you.
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Those young kids today just don’t know how to be grateful! Well, that’s what the older generation says, anyway. Whether you believe this or not, it does seem like the younger generations have a more relaxed attitude towards saying thank you. It’s not that they don’t, it’s that they tend to say it with an email or a quick text message instead of a more formal or demonstrative way. The art of saying thank you seems to have been lost.
That’s not to say people never said thank you with just a quick message in the past. On the contrary, many people used thank you cards to express their gratitude. However, these cards took more thought and effort than a quick email. You had to purchase the card, which meant looking through the store’s selection and picking one that you felt had some connection to the recipient. Then you had to hand-write a message in the card (or at least sign your name) and hand address it. You either had to personally deliver it or put it in the mail. It was a process, and it was much more personal than an email or text.
Another part of the art of saying thank you is that it was often done with more than just a card. People often said thank you with a small homemade trinket, some homemade cookies, or a bouquet of fresh flowers. These gifts weren’t always expensive or elaborate, but they took time, and that showed that the giver was truly appreciative. An email doesn’t take much time, so that personal effort that says “I really appreciate what you did for me” isn’t really there.
But even though the art of saying thank you may not be as visible in the younger generation, that doesn’t mean the attitude of thankfulness is gone. On the other hand, with people so busy every day, just seeing that someone did take a minute to email you a quick thanks does mean a lot. It means that they thought enough of what you did for them that they put down their smart phone, clicked off of Facebook, or turned away from the TV for a minute to email you.
Let us help you bring back the art of saying thank you! Tell someone thanks with one of our brilliant bouquets of flowers in Washington, DC.