March Madness and You

ncaa-march-madness1March Madness is upon us!  But you don’t have to be a huge basketball fan to fall into March Madness.  The term has come to also refer to the activities many people start in the spring after winter is over.

March Madness and Men

If your man loves basketball, expect him to be parked in front of the TV for much of March.  The NCAA Men’s Division I championship is held throughout the month.  But another form of March Madness comes with the change in the weather.  Since it’s warmer, a lot of men can’t wait to get outdoors and start tinkering with their cars, riding their motorcycles, or playing a little basketball themselves.  Of course, they probably won’t be thinking about starting in on your home repair list!

March Madness and Women

Some women get into basketball as well, but many find other things to do during the month.  Many like to get a start on their spring cleaning.  They go through their clothes and get rid of anything they haven’t worn in a while.  Then, since they’ve gotten rid of a chunk of their wardrobe, they’ve got to go shopping!  Some women like to get their gardens or flowerbeds started up, although you never can tell if there will be a late March freeze or not.

Fun Activities for the Whole Family

Sometimes, the whole family sits down to watch the games, but if you can’t get everyone together for basketball, you can do other March Madness activities.  You can spend a lot of time outdoors, go play at the park, or go to the zoo.  It all depends on how the weather is.

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March Madness Therapy

March Madness…for many men, it’s the highlight of the year.  For many women, however, it means dealing with what seems like 24/7 of basketball.  If you have a husband who is a sports fanatic, you might not be too happy this month.  However, why not take this time to get out of the house and pamper yourself?  If you’re not a big basketball fan, here’s an idea: have a little March Madness therapy to get over the constant sports!

There are a number of different things you can do for your March Madness therapy, some involving going out and some staying in.  If you want to get as far away from the sports as possible, you can make plans with your friends.  You can have a girls’ night out with dinner, a movie, or shopping.  You could also make reservations at a day spa and spend a whole day being pampered while the men enjoy themselves in front of the TV.

If you want to stay in, there are many things you can do besides watch the game.  You can curl up in bed with your favorite novel, take a relaxing bubble bath, or even sit outside and enjoy the warm afternoon sun.  You don’t even need to hit the day spa to pamper yourself at home.  Order yourself a nice bouquet of flowers, pick up a bottle of wine and some desserts from the store, and settle in for a relaxing afternoon or evening while your husband watches his favorite team.  He will never know just how relaxed and content you are…in fact, he will probably be so absorbed with the game that he might not even realize whether you’re at home or not!  But that’s OK—let him have his March Madness while you enjoy a bit of therapy

March Madness – Basketball Widow Survival 101

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What do you do when your competition is not another woman, but another guy shooting a ball?

As March madness kicks into high gear, women whose husbands are sports fanatics can feel neglected and abandoned — it’s the classic “football widow” syndrome. But you’re not doomed to annoyance and resentment if you can meet your husband halfway.

Your goal is not to get your man to stop watching sports. After all, you wouldn’t be pleased if you were forbidden to engage in an activity that gives you great pleasure. It’s OK for you not to like sports — just as it’s OK for him not to like shopping.

Don’t forget that there are benefits to sports fandom. Sports fans have something to look forward to as well as a good avenue for blowing off steam. They are able to identify with a group and bond with friends over the game — all are plusses for mental health. Sports often create common ground for fathers and children.

A problem exists only if you feel your man’s sports fanaticism is negatively affecting family or couple time.

One good strategy is to do your own thing while your husband is watching the game. Plan your own day out with your friends or with other women in the same boat.

If you want to stay with your husband while he watches the tube, don’t feel obligated to watch intently. Do your own thing — read, write, do the crossword puzzle, brush the dog.

Use sports as a way to bond with others. Turn the game into a social event. There’s no rule saying you need to actually watch the activity on the field. Catch up with your friends, and spend the time talking rather than watching.

Make the game a family activity, too. When your team wins, you can go for pizza and celebrate. When your team loses, you can go for pizza and commiserate.

It’s pointless to tell your man you hate sports or you don’t get why he likes them. It’s better to try to get involved. If you have any interest at all, have him explain the game to you. (Don’t do this during a game. Badgering him with “What is happening?” is like talking during a movie and likely to annoy him.)

Have him discuss not just the rules but the players. Their personal stories are often far more interesting. Every team has its backstories and personalities — the bad boy, the underdog, the comeback kid.

Still if your man is watching sports to the point your marriage is suffering, he might be using sports to avoid you. Sportsaholics and workaholics sometimes immerse themselves in outside activities to avoid their home life.

If he places sports too far above your life together, it could be that something bad is brewing between you. In this case, his sports fandom is masking the real issue, and he won’t reduce his reliance on sports until that problem is solved.

So you should let him know that, while you want him to enjoy watching the game, you feel a distance between you, and you should brainstorm about ways to create inclusion.

Bottom Line: Don’t try to get a sports fan to give up sports. Instead, consider the positive aspects of sports fandom, and meet your man (or woman) halfway.

By Dr. Gail Saltz
From MSNBC Today