Re-Energize Your Romance

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Swept Away

We’ve all been there. Life becomes a routine and busy and we forget or neglect to nurture our relationship and fall in a rutt. Well now that the HOT weather is here, it’s high time we un-rutt and light up some much needed fire under our relationship. Everything needs dusting off and refreshing once in a while; romantic relationships are no different. We need to make sure that our significant other remembers why s/he chose us over the sea of better suiters.

Romance: n. Enchantment, passion, fascination.

Let’s use the very romantic meaning of romance to help us re-discover that sentimental, fairy tale loving, hearts doodling, goofy smile having selves. Remember those butterflies in the stomach, sweaty hands, mild palpitation of expectation you use to have right before you see your love or right before your honey sees what you’ve planned for him/her. Yes? Well we need to get that back.

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Garden Promenade

Enchantment: Think MAGIC. This where you need to come up with new fresh ways to mesmerize, bewitch even, your honey. Plan something that will make your babe see hearts and have dreamy eyes. Go all out with those little gestures that will take him/her to the point of “Overwhelmed with so much LOVE!!!” Make it unexpected. Like on a Wednesday when s/he’s least expecting it. We’re not saying get a string quartet or have Wolfgang Puck cater your meal and send her/him a wall of peonies hydrangeas and roses a la Kanye West. All we’re saying is be creative. You know him/her better than anyone, you know what makes your babe’s hear flutter and go on over drive.

Passion: Put some OOMPH in your plans. Do to please your love, but don’t think of it as an “I have to do it”. Do it because your WANT to do it. That passion will show through your efforts and will lend to the MAGIC of it all. Passion is what will take the heat from a “meh” lukewarm flicker of light to a blazing hot flame. Do those those small things things that your babe sigh with glee, just multiply it by 100 this time. And have a defibrillator handy.

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Explosion of Roses

Fascination: Make him/her want more and interested and curious of what’s next. This is where you show your partner that there is more to you than the person that brings greasy chinese home after work and eats it with you with your hands because you are both too tired to get up for forks while sitting on the floor and watching bad TV (too specific?). This is where you prove that, unlike all the other fish in the sea, you have many layers and will keep your relationship new and fresh and exciting.

If all else fails, call a florist. Flowers say romance like nobody’s business. We may be biased but we think an arrangement of deep blood red roses will say your heart pumps blood that is saturated with love for your honey…Right? Right!

 


Romantic Fun at Home

A romantic dinner for two can be a great way to start a date at home.

A romantic dinner for two can be a great way to start a date at home.

While a romantic dinner at a fancy restaurant followed by a concert or a show can make for a great evening out, there’s nothing wrong with having a little romantic fun at home.  In fact, for couples on a budget (and who isn’t on a budget these days?), planning a romantic night at home may be the only real option.  If you’re watching the wallet, here are a few ideas for saving money.

Have a picnic on your living room or bedroom floor.  Just spread out a blanket, make a nice dinner (or maybe some ramen noodles if money is really tight!), and enjoy your favorite movie or put on some music.  It has all the charm of a picnic outdoors but without the bugs or the weather. 

If sitting on the floor isn’t your idea of a good time, cook a nice romantic dinner.  Light the table with candles, put on some nice music, and have a fancy dinner at home.  You don’t need waiters or expensive desserts to make it a nice meal.

While going out to a theater to see a movie can be fun, watching a movie at home can be just as much fun.  You can have all the popcorn and soda you want without paying the crazy concession stand prices, for one thing.  For another thing, you don’t have to worry about missing a key point of the film if you have to make a bathroom run.  Oh, and there are no noisy children or rude theater-goers.  Of course, if you have children, you may want to arrange for them to stay over at a friend’s or relative’s house for the evening so they don’t interrupt!

Of course, there’s nothing to say that you have to keep your romantic fun PG-13.  If you have a large bathtub, you can light some candles, pour some wine, and spend some quality time together covered in bubbles.  This type of evening can easily lead to the bedroom.  For a little romance there, sprinkle some fresh rose petals on the bed (free if you have roses and they’re in bloom) and, again, put on some nice music.  You might even want to do something like read a little romantic poetry or, if you sing or play an instrument, sing a love song.

There are many ways to have a romantic night at home.  While these are all great ideas, there are many more that are unique to you and your significant other.  Plan something the two of you love to do and see where the evening takes you.