There are a lot of different ways of showing good manners. You can say please and thank you, hold the door for others, and use proper etiquette at the table. One other way of showing good manners is to send flowers. It’s a classic way of showing you have good manners.
One of the traditional ways of telling someone congratulations is by sending flowers. People have sent large bouquets of flowers to say “good job” or “contragulations on a job well done” for getting a promotion, completing a large project, or landing a new client. Congratulating someone for something like this is considered good manners, and one of the best ways of doing so is sending flowers.
It’s also good manners to acknowledge someone’s loss. Again, sending sympathy flowers is a good way of doing so. There are many different types of sympathy flowers you can send, including casket sprays, wreaths, and potted plants.
It’s also a sign of good manners to acknowledge someone’s birthday or anniversary. Often people will send flowers as a gift, especially for a girl’s birthday.
If you know someone who is going through an illness or major health concern, you may want to send them flowers. This is more than just a show of good manners—knowing that there are people out there who care about them can help someone recover or at least make their illness not seem quite so bad.
When it comes to floral gifts, consumers rely most frequently on their local florists, according to recent research conducted by The Michael Cohen Group. The reasons abound, including the scope of florists’ professional experience, product quality and convenience.
Rebecca Cole, professional floral designer and co-host of Discovery Channel’s Surprise by Design, recommends thinking F.R.E.S.H. whether you’re sending flowers across the country or around the corner.
Find your florist, one that you connect with and who will be your florist for every occasion. If you don’t already have a florist, ask a friend or family for names of florists they know and trust. Visit the Florist Directory.
R Research the different kinds of flowers available. Knowing the names of flowers is easier than you think and is a lot like learning about fine wines or gemstones. Click here for a floral library.
Evoke emotion. While 88 percent of people agree that a gift of flowers changes your mood for the better, evoke an even stronger emotion by sending your friend’s favorite flowers or colors. Your florist will be able to help you achieve your desired feeling. And, make the gift extraordinary by crafting a card message that has special meaning.
Send a surprise! Most people say “just because” is the best reason to receive flowers. Gifts have the biggest impact when they are unexpected.
H Have confidence knowing you sent a great gift. Flowers fit everyone. Ninety-two percent of women can remember the last time they got flowers and 97 percent of women and men can remember the last time they gave someone flowers. And, those surveyed describe flower givers as “thoughtful and sophisticated” people.
“When you send flowers, you send memories that last forever,” Cole said. “Flowers are powerfully poetic. Their beauty and nature simply make people feel special.”
M.J. Ryan, happiness expert and author of the Random Acts of Kindness book series, has coupled her expertise on the power of gratitude with her love of flowers to create Random Acts of Flowers, a list of her favorite reasons to send a floral gift.
“I see flowers as a way to capture special moments and emotions in life,” says Ryan. “People truly and fondly remember when they get flowers, and you will continue to feel thanked throughout your relationship long after you send them.”
Here are Ryan’s Top 10 Random Acts of Flowers:
One Who Makes a Difference: Think of the carpool mom, scout leader, local volunteer or apartment doorman who makes an everyday difference in your life. A surprise bouquet is a convenient, informal way to say “Thanks for making my life easier.”
Wedding Arrangements: When asking a friend to join your wedding party or expressing thanks to a shower hostess, ask your florist to help make it special by delivering an arrangement in advance of the big day.
Best Friend Boosts: Send a celebrational bunch to a best friend who lands a dream job, a sibling who receives a promotion at work, or a friend who reaches a personal milestone. Show them you care about their success.
A Moment of Calm: Help someone dealing with a hectic time in their life relax with a tranquil gift of flowers. Your florist can give you ideas on soothing colors and styles, and help you deliver that “moment of calm.” The recipient will be impressed by your thoughtfulness.
Life Lessons: Surprise your child’s teacher or tutor with an eye-popping arrangement for his/her desk. Ask your child to put his/her favorite teaching moment on the gift card to make a memory that lasts a lifetime.
Lifeguard Reward: Send flowers to thank your baby-sitter or pet sitter as a surprise thank-you for safely guarding your most prized possessions.
A Beautiful Day in the Neighborhood: Welcome a new family or delight an elderly neighbor who does not get out much with a colorful flowering plant or fresh flowers for their kitchen. It’s a great way to break the ice, meet a friend and show you care.
Fresh Squeeze: Don’t wait for Valentine’s Day to say “I love you.” Research shows that people like to receive flowers when they least expect it. Send a surprise floral hug to make your romance spontaneously blossom. Or, on your birthday, send flowers to your mom to thank her for all she’s done for you.
Delivery is in the Details: Show your appreciation to your hair stylist who always manages to fit you in during a pinch, or your doctor who spends those extra minutes to show he/she cares.
Declare You Care: Send a bouquet to celebrate a friend who has recovered from an illness or a new mom on her first day back to work. It will be a beautiful reminder of your support and friendship.
“Flowers are the perfect expression of gratitude and appreciation, and they deliver a message with sincerity and care,” says Ryan. “The new research shows that these positive characteristics also are attributed to the giver. Giving flowers is an act of kindness, and the results are anything but random.”